So listen, I try my hardest to shy away from using phrases like “that person is a hater”, or “ he/she is hating on me”. I consciously try to carry myself in a manner that lends itself to the question “who am I to hate on?” I make sure to smile when I’m in public, I speak to everyone, and I treat everyone as if they are one of my cousins. However, every now and again, you encounter a bitch that has all kinds of personal issues that causes them to act like you owe them something. Let me tell you bitches something. I, Funky Dineva Ross do not owe a nan bitch anything. The problem I’ve most commonly run into is people feeling like because we somewhat do the same thing, but they’ve been doing it longer, that I owe them some sort of homage. I’ve also run into those who have been attempting to do what I do for years, have made no headway, but feels some kind of way towards me for garnering some sort of notoriety in what they perceive as a short period of time. Let’s address both of these.
1. Just because we somewhat do the same thing, but you’ve been doing it longer doesn’t entitle you to any sort of homage.
You guys will be surprised the lengths people will go to try to make you feel some kind of way about yourself due to their shortcomings. I was hanging out with a friend one night when a Blogger made it a point to introduce themselves to me as “John Doe, one of the very first Bloggers.” I remember shaking his hand and thinking to myself “ohhh ok girl.” Later on that night, as I continued to pay that ho dust, her desire to be acknowledged by me grew larger. A few cocktails later, this person’s inner desire to be recognized by me grew to a place of her insulting me just to get some sort of reaction. Walking down the street, having a general conversation about blogging all together, this bitch had the nerve to say to me “well really, who are you anyway? You’re just a gimmick and won’t be here in 10 years.” Mind you this was totally unsolicited. All things constant, whether I am just a gimmick and won’t be here in 10 years, or not is inconsequential to this person’s life. Let’s just say the night ended with this bitch getting popped in the head. I don’t deal well with bitches talking to me crazy. What still baffles me to this day about this particular situation is why was this person so fixated on me, and why did they think I owed them something? Just because you were doing it much longer than me, but has not achieved some of the same things that I have achieved has absolutely nothing to do with me. It would seem to me that this person should take up their grievances with God and not me who is honestly lives day-to-day paying majority of the world dust.
There is the case of the popular female Blogger who makes it a point to tweet me periodically throughout the year as she is talking to her readers to let me know I’m not funny. She has even gone to lengths as to tweet me about what a Blogger is and what a Blogger isn’t, as if there is some standardized handbook with a job description for what a Blogger is and a governing boardd ran by the state government that validates our credentials. Much like the BAR or being a CPA. Girl bye. Just because you’ve been doing it for fifty eleven years means you now have license to define an entire profession?
Then there is the nice nasty blogger who I must admit, posted my videos in the very beginning and sent me nice tweets from time to time. She eventually found her way into my comment sections leaving nice nasty comments. Eventually the comments just got plain ole nasty. This woman had the nerve to carry on a conversation one night with her friend, in my comments section, about my grammar. Being entitled to her opinions, was it necessary for her to air them in my comments section? I think not. Lord knows I say whatever the hell I want to say about people. The difference is, I speak my peace on my page. I don’t go over to other peoples pages, where they should have the luxury of peace, and talk my junk. What happen to professional courtesy?
What do all these people have in common? The overwhelming desires to be acknowledge by someone. Little do they know, I can’t help their asses. It’s not my fault television networks have not called them to do tv specials, not my fault that management agencies have not expressed any interest in helping them further their careers, and it definitely isn’t my fault for any sort of personal issues they are having as it relates to their own success.
At times I so understand Nicki Minaj’s feelings when it comes to her situation with Lil Kim. Yes bitch y’all where doing it before me. Yes y’all have all reached your own individual levels of personal success, and yes you guys have helped define the blogosphere as we know it. However, because I am now one of the current “cool kids” does not mean I owe any of you sh!t. I definitely can thank the work of any individual who has opened doors for me. But who’s to say any of the aforementioned people have? With that, I don’t you anything so please take your grievances up with the man upstairs.
2, Dealing with those who have been attempting to do what you do for years, has made no headway, but feels some kind of about you for garnering some sort of notoriety in what they perceive as a short period of time.
Simply put, these types of hoes need to mind their own business. I’ve run into more people who have spent their time trying to figure out how the hell I do what I do that it cripples their ability to do what they have set out to accomplish. Listen, God doesn’t recommend multi-tasking when it comes to what you are going to do with your life. You’ve got to focus. People so often forget that when it comes to making your own ish pop off, you don’t have the time or the capacity to be worrying about or investigating others.
Since entering this business, I’ve been sued, dis-invited from events, and ambushed at events by people who are in their chest about their inability to go to higher heights, and somehow I’m to blame. Like seriously? How are these people drawing these correlations?
! Just because a person has been highly visible for 3 years does not mean that said person has only been working towards said goal for 3 years. NOW DIGEST THAT!
This is getting lengthy and I just needed to get this shit off my chest. I’m going to end it here, just like this, BECAUSE I CAN. BYE
Oh, I forgot to spell out when it is proper for you to pay someone homage. Plainly put, when they aren’t seeking it! Homage is something that is reserved for people who have blazed trails and opened doors for you, either consciously or unconsciously, but without the expectation of the world giving them anything in return. Homage is an honor that is bestowed upon someone, not a promissory note used to bind others in mental and emotional debt! With that, most people are owed a “kiss my ass” before they will ever be due HOMAGE! #NowIsaidThat