R&B Diva’s Monifah: Living and Loving With a Homophobic Daughter

Posted on Jul 11 2013 - 2:24pm by Funky Dineva

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The mother-child relationship has the potential to be one the most special relationships in the world. Nature and society combine to render motherhood one of the most exalted roles that a woman can ever undertake in her life. Because the mother-child relationship is often filled with beauty, it is easy to forget that there can also be an ugly side to the mother-child relationship. Many things have the potential to undermine the mother-child relationship, but homophobia, in particular, taints the mother-child relationship in a uniquely insidious way.

Prior to watching R&B Divas Atlanta, I had little knowledge of the singer Monifah. What I did recall of her, I learned from the movie BAPS. In the movie, one of the characters runs up to Heavy D, in excitement, yelling, “I’m the next Monifah!” It was clear to me, even then, that Monifah was a great singer, but I had paid little attention to her throughout the years. When it was announced that Monifah would be part of the R&B Divas Atlanta cast, blogs and other media outlets began to report that Monifah was a lesbian woman. As a Black gay man, I was excited to by the news that Monifah was a member of the LGBT community, and that she would be sharing her life on television. When I began watching R&B Divas Atlanta, I soon came to realize that Monifah, aside from being a great singer, was also a woman with a beautiful personality and spirit. In each of her scenes, she could be counted on to emanate truth, light, love, and a positive attitude. I suppose, it was this warmth and kindness that made me assume that Monifah was loved, as the whole person she is, by everyone in her life. I was wrong.  Monifah-Terez-610x325

Part of Monifah’s storyline this season revolved around her relationship with her partner Terez. Monifah and Terez’s relationship was one of the most honest and moving that I have ever seen on television, regardless of the sexual orientation of those being depicted. Their love for each other, as Black lesbian women, was clear in every episode, every scene. I was glad to see such a beautiful representation of the Black LGBT community on television. Like I said earlier, because of the type of person that Monifah is, a person full of love and warmth, I made the mistake of assuming that everyone in her life loved her as the whole person that she is. I could not have been more mistaken. While watching one of the later episodes, my mouth literally dropped when I realized that Monifah’s daughter, Akemi, was homophobic. Like most homophobic people, Akemi proceeded to use the Bible, of course, to justify her homophobic views. Generally, I try to stay away from making assumptions, but I was blown away by Monifah’s daughter’s homophobia. It flew in the face of the narratives of homosexuality and homophobia that I had grown accustomed to: gay child, homophobic parent; not gay parent, homophobic child. I suppose, in a way, I am glad that Monifah  let the world see her reality, because we absolutely need to remember that homophobia can poison both sides of the parent/child relationship.

It would be hypocritical of me to not state that Monifah has not always been there for Akemi. Monifah had Akemi at a young age, and was in and out of her life. Monifah has battled drug addiction and other life issues that have resulted in a strained relationship with her daughter over the years. The Monifah we see today, rooted in truth, love, and light, is the result of Monifah working hard to get her life on track. This is not to excuse Akemi’s homophobia, but it does give context to where her homophobia my be originating from.

r-n-b-divas-monifahOne of the worst things about homophobia is the way that it can taint the relationships between family members, especially those relationships between parents and children. I know of too many cases where homophobia has resulted in a parent disowning their children for being gay. Fortunately, Monifah and Akemi still have a relationship, but it astounds me that someone, with a parent as loving as Monifah, would be able to call their mother’s love for another woman “perverted”. As a parent, as a person, and as a loved one, it hurts to be told that who you are and who you love is a perversion, a sin. True to her positive outlook, and ethos of love and warmth, Monifah did not let her daughter’s homophobia break her down. While sharing with her daughter that she would soon be marrying the love of her life, Terez, Monifah remained the beautiful person that she is, even though that beauty was not being reciprocated. I know it must have been painful to have your daughter reject who you are and who you love, but Monifah remained respectful of her daughter’s ignorant views. Once again, Monifah showed that she was courage and truth under fire.

I have often said that it is unfortunate that homophobia can result in mothers turning their backs on the child they brought into this world, but it is also true that homophobia can result in the child turning their back on the mother that brought them into this world. As clear between Monifah and Akemi, the homophobic pendulum can swing both ways. Monifah and Akemi, despite Akemi’s homophobia, continue to have a seemingly loving relationship. However, that is not the case for many gay people who find themselves cut off from their family.

On the show, Monifah stated that she believes her daughter’s heart will change as she grows older, that “experience”, in this world, will help her come to her senses by abandoning the homophobic worldview she currently subscribes to. For Monifah and Akemi, and all mother-child, parent-child relationships, out there, I hope that this is true.

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  1. Teri June 27, 2014 at 1:55 pm - Reply

    It’s sad that her views would be ignorant because she does. Of agree with her mothers lifestyle. You’re gay, fine. Do I agree with it, no. My nephew is gay. He is my best friend. But I don’t agree with him. My opinion should not be considered ignorant. It’s just not what you want to hear. YOU sound more ignorant than Akema. Shame on you!!

  2. Chandra Lowe June 26, 2014 at 1:44 am - Reply

    Having a natural inability to produce children is proof enough for me that it’s wrong. A phobia is something feared. I’m not afraid of anyone who lives that lifestyle. If you don’t mind hellfire that us coming upon you all for unrepentance, then so be it. This is America, a land overloaded with information. You have all heard about the Gospel of Jesus Christ, same with Monifah and her female friend. You are all without excuse. Love is not tolerant in evil things.

  3. chanel April 3, 2014 at 3:36 pm - Reply

    I swear gay dudes always talking n gossiping…stfu plz. Its their business. Then she just has different views,so why call her homophobic

  4. The1 January 26, 2014 at 1:44 pm - Reply

    To the one who stated God never said that homosexuality was wrong in the Bible….! The name of the book in the Bible is Genesis Sodom and Gomorrah is the story…And also the one who tries to say that the New Testament over wrote the Old Testament is a liar and is so wrong. He already told us what was right from wrong in the Old Testament it didn’t need to be rewrote in the New. One thing about right and wrong is that I am clear about it and I have gay friends but I don’t agree that anyone should live that lifestyle, ok. My friend can’t call me and say hey come rob this bank with me, hey help me dispose of this body, my son can’t bring his mistress to my home and he is married…no you are not going to drag me into your wrong you do your dirt by yourself. Do you think everyone who an urge to steal, steal? Do you think everyone who has an urge to commit adultery or kill, commit adultery or kill? We all have to meet God on judgement day and explain why we did wrong I’m not going down for the next person wrongs.

  5. Marion November 27, 2013 at 9:14 pm - Reply

    Monifah wasn’t born gay.

  6. Zion MarQuiese Devereaux July 31, 2013 at 4:23 pm - Reply

    As much as I do not agree with how her daughter is coming across she is NOT homophobic. She has a right NOT to agree with something.
    I don’t agree with abortion does that make me hate women?
    I don’t agree with stealing does that make me hate thieves?
    I don’t agree with killing does that make me hate murderers?
    Let’s be real here.
    She has a right NOT to agree and she is expressing her beliefs. As a black gay male it has always amazed me how gay people can clown, demean, belittle and mistreat others but someone can not agree with their sexuality and all of a sudden we want to cry foul.
    I don’t agree with how she is expressing herself but she has a right not to agree- period.

    • Anonymous August 5, 2013 at 2:48 pm - Reply

      You do realize that all the examples you gave were of actions, right? Is your sexual orientation an action or is it part of who you are? The cognitive dissonance people have to justify hateful beliefs is astonishing.

      • Dre February 7, 2014 at 5:03 pm - Reply

        Having sex with the same gender as yourself is an action. That is the definition of being gay, no? If someone doesn’t agree with me being a vegetarian does that mean they hate me. Being a vegetarian is not an action, right?. I beleive you should love who you want to love but we need to remember tolerance and open-mindedness is a 2-way street. The double standard is astonishing.

      • Anonymous June 18, 2014 at 7:29 pm - Reply

        I agree, why would u associate being gay with stealing and killing and not love or physical attraction which are 2 things that gay people have in common with straight and just about every human on the planet.

    • kay April 28, 2014 at 11:41 am - Reply

      Wow! Refreshing to hear this from a gay male. Thanks for being honest and sharing.

  7. Anonymous July 26, 2013 at 3:43 am - Reply

    Its called an opinion and/or belief and everybody is allowed to have one?! Including Akemi

  8. Dual degreed Scholar from a university July 19, 2013 at 7:43 pm - Reply

    The people who claim they strongly believe in the bible and all that is stated has failed to know the true understanding of the word within this bible. Lets address a few different things. Any one who is a true scholar and believer in the word of the bible shall understand its word. But most of the people here didn’t realize that there is a huge difference between that of the Old Testament and the New Testament in which we live by this very day. I am one who is a member of the homoerotic community and that of the Christian religious faith. In the Old Testament it is true, homosexuality was that in which was viewed as being an abomination(perversion). This is where those who holds the key to the real faith of God. I can promise you half of the people or 75% have no clue why our lord died upon the Cross or why did he weep? Find the true answer and then you can try and respond, until then allow me to silence you people who only know the few scriptures in which you saw upon a sign that a person may have been holding standing along the side of the street. “Our lord” died for our sins. The same one who stated that no sin is greater than the other, the same who said mixing clothings fabrics was an abomination, the same one who said many things were an abomination and the list goes on in the Old Testament. The New Testament was then created because there was many laws and also an occurance of a different time era to in which God honors “love”. Any true believers in the Christian faith knows you are not to cast judgement upon another. Many of you have failed this thus far. I can go on and on about this topic but you few may not have a strong enough mind capacity in order to hold the knowledge in which the same bible we read from holds. Before you cast judgement or speak upon you religion based upon a topic please have a clear and full understanding of that in which you “believe in.” Yes I am apart of the homoerotic community, yes I am a degreed scholar, yes I am a Christian and southern baptist at that and yes I know I will make it to heaven with a pure heart because I have my faith…. Can you commenters say the same about yourselves and your “everlasting life.” God bless you all and good night. Please don’t respond until you have covered all grounds of the bible, no matter what version you have, before you attempt to go toe to toe in dialogue upon this subject.

    • The1 January 26, 2014 at 1:46 pm - Reply

      To the one who stated God never said that homosexuality was wrong in the Bible….! The name of the book in the Bible is Genesis Sodom and Gomorrah is the story…And also the one who tries to say that the New Testament over wrote the Old Testament is a liar and is so wrong. He already told us what was right from wrong in the Old Testament it didn’t need to be rewrote in the New. One thing about right and wrong is that I am clear about it and I have gay friends but I don’t agree that anyone should live that lifestyle, ok. My friend can’t call me and say hey come rob this bank with me, hey help me dispose of this body, my son can’t bring his mistress to my home and he is married…no you are not going to drag me into your wrong you do your dirt by yourself. Do you think everyone who an urge to steal, steal? Do you think everyone who has an urge to commit adultery or kill, commit adultery or kill? We all have to meet God on judgement day and explain why we did wrong I’m not going down for the next person wrongs.

    • Gen Gen March 31, 2014 at 5:58 am - Reply

      Please get off your high horse….please. people do not like to be preached to. If you’re gay, so be it, but please READ the book of Romans in the NEW testsment. It slso speaks of the gay issue. I don’t mean to sound rude but you come off as very pious and sanctimonious.

    • anotherNote April 2, 2014 at 11:27 am - Reply

      My friend..the funny thing about the gospel is that it convicts and condemns the very ones who try to teach it. ” Any true believers in the Christian faith knows you are not to cast judgement upon another. ” That statement right there voided your whole argument. Your whole argument is using the scripture to convince someone else that they are wrong, calling someone a false believer because they do not process the information the same way as you did. My brother its not your job to convince or change the heart of man, the commandment that he gives above all is to love. Now I am not saying do not spread the word because that is the least we can do but doing it while removing yourself, your thoughts, and all other is the problem of the day.

  9. anotherNote July 15, 2013 at 6:59 pm - Reply

    That girl expressed her faith and beliefs. I am so tired of the alternative lifestyle being forced down peoples throat. If you don’t support it, then you must be a homophobe. Well I guess I am card carrying homophobe regardless of the fact that I have no problem with you (not you FD), I just don’t believe in doing what you do. Doesn’t the bible say work out your own salvation.

    • HaveaSeat July 16, 2013 at 9:59 pm - Reply

      So just because she is strongly rooted in her faith she is homophobic? That is absolutely absurd! She never said she would stop loving her mother, she doesn’t avoid her mother, she just said she doesn’t support her relationship. And the Bible does says homosexuality IS a perversion…point, blank, period. Why was this article even published? To bash Christians? But if there is ANYTHING negative every said about the gay community, then all hell breaks loose! As a Christian I am strongly offended by the nature and assumptions of this article! I believe God, I believe the Bible, and was very proud her daughter is able to stand FIRM in her beliefs and still love her mother. They agree to disagree and that is wonderful! How many confused children are in this world being raised by two women or two men and trying to make sense of it?! Is that fair to the child? No it isn’t!!! If God ever intended things to be that way then two men or two women would be able to reproduce, but guess what they can’t and never will be able to!

      • Anonymous August 5, 2013 at 2:45 pm - Reply

        Just take all the fucking seats already.

      • CCB December 4, 2013 at 5:14 pm - Reply

        The Bible also condones slavery. So I guess slavery should still be legal in this country? That’s the same argument the opponents of African-American civil rights used, first to argue in favor of slavery and a century later to argue in favor of segregation. Funny how you Bible-thumpers like to overlook that. I love it when evangelical right-wing Christians bully other people and then “blame the victim” and claim that they themselves are the victims of bullying. It gives me something to laugh about.

        Freedom of religion means freedom FROM religion for those who choose not to believe. You fanatical right-wing evangelical Christians are the ones trying to force your beliefs on everyone else. Most LGBT people could care less about validation from the religious right. We just want validation from the government. Not “special treatment” but the same rights that heterosexual Americans have with regard to marriage, etc. And if you’re against that, I’m sorry, but as far as I can tell, you are a bigot and a homophobe. You have a right to express your opinion, but then I also have the right to call you out on it and point out the bigotry in your opinion. Just because you believe your opinion is validated by the Bible (which is, by the way, NOT the law of the land, and Christianity is NOT our state religion) doesn’t make your opinion better or more valid than anyone else’s, or should it make your opinion the final word. Of course Akemi has every right to believe as she wishes and to express said belief. This is America and she should not begrudged said right. By the same token, I have the right to point out the bigotry in her position.

        Also, Jesus said NOT ONE SINGLE WORD about homosexuality. And if you are against homosexual sex because it can’t result in procreation, I guess you are also against two heterosexuals who are unable to have children having sex.

        Sometimes it just boggles my mind… people are willing to accept rappers and thugs like 50 Cent and Chris Brown who beat and shoot people and use drugs and openly brag about it but have such a problem with what two consenting adults, be they of the same sex or of opposite sexes, do in the privacy of their own homes. I was not aware before that the singer of “Touch It” is gay, but I applaud her for being brave enough to be herself and put it out there, surely knowing that she would be subjected to hateful comments such as those written here.

        • Anonymous March 22, 2014 at 8:47 pm - Reply

          Slavery is in fact still legal in the United States, it’s in our Constitution “Neither slavery nor involuntary servitude, except as a punishment for crime whereof the party shall have been duly convicted, shall exist within the United States, or any place subject to their jurisdiction.” If the bible approved of it, Moses and the Israelites would have never been freed.

          About procreation; yes sex is intended for reproduction, thus the egg and the seed. An apple without seeds is still an apple in principle, no? Just because a fruit has a defect and does not produce offspring, it does not change it’s true identity. A man is a man, a woman is a woman even if they can not have children.

          I am not a homophobe, I am the product of a lesbian mother with many guy friends. I have many guy friends. I do not judge anyone nor am I afraid of them. Hear me and hear me well, being guy is not a noun it is a verb. No matter how much you don’t want to admit it, you know it is. We are all born with vices that we have to fight against, some people lie, steal, cheat…This is one you have to fight!

          Even if we take the Almighty God out of the discussion… If your mother will not tell you to do it, happily, then you know it’s wrong!

  10. Michele Garmon Alexander July 15, 2013 at 10:39 am - Reply

    This article is so wrong. Why do people who don´t believe in homosexuality have to adjust our thoughts and opinions to make the gay community happy. Why cant we feel our way and they can feel their way. I have gay friends and I love my gay friends. We respect each other no matter what our beliefs are. Akemi is not wrong for expressing her beliefs and she loves her mother. I thought using the term perversion was reaching a bit but I dont think she meant any harm. God bless everyone we are all his children. I may not agree with the lifestyle, but you all are human beings just like me and I respect you as such.

  11. Verberat July 13, 2013 at 7:07 pm - Reply

    There is nothing wrong with encouraging the acceptance homosexuality and bisexuality in society. It certainly won’t hurt anyone. It should be seen as normal and equal to heterosexuality, because it is! A huge benefit to society is that same-sex couples can adopt babies to give them a loving home and family.

    • Chateau Sheree July 15, 2013 at 6:15 pm - Reply

      Obviously homosexuality is unnatural and violates the laws of nature. IF men & men and women & women were meant to be together they would be able to reproduce. That’s the laws of life.

      • Christina July 15, 2013 at 6:41 pm - Reply

        I’m gonna need a source on homosexuality not being natural, cause funnily enough, I can’t seem to find any evidence of that. Almost like it is natural, and occurs in 1,500 different species, including bonobos, one of our closest relatives in the animal world, where it occurs in over 60% of all sexual encounters.

        • Zion MarQuiese Devereaux July 31, 2013 at 4:28 pm - Reply

          It’s not a good idea to compare human sexuality to that of ignorant animals.
          It doesn’t help the case at all.
          Dogs eat their own feces and eat their own throw up.
          Do humans eat their own feces and throw up?
          Some animals eat their offspring.
          Do you eat your offspring?
          It’s not a good idea to compare the gay lifestyle to the actions of animals.
          Actually, I take it as an offense.

          • Anonymous August 5, 2013 at 2:58 pm -

            What is offensive about comparing one animal to another animal? Humans are animals. The “ignorance” of other animals is what makes their behavior worth analyzing in comparison to humans because, unlike humans, it can’t be argued that their sexual behavior is due to influence from the media. It shows that homosexuality occurs in nature. Something occurring in nature by definition makes it natural.

            There are millions of heterosexual couples that cannot reproduce, so their union is unnatural? The arguments people use to try to justify their bigotry are absurd and have more holes than a colander.

  12. Shee Shee July 13, 2013 at 4:06 pm - Reply

    A phobia is something ur afraid of. So why is it that when ppl dont agree with a gay lifestyle they are homophobic????? They are not afraid of gay ppl they just don’t agree. I also have the beliefs that Akemi has. I respect ppl in general whether I agree with what they so or not. That doesn’t make me afraid of them so can you all stop calling ppl homophobic. Ughhhh get it together Dineva

    • Anonymous August 5, 2013 at 3:02 pm - Reply

      Invest in a dictionary. Homophobia is an irrational fear or aversion to homosexuality. All “disagreements” about homosexuality are irrational, so yes, if you’re against homosexuality, you’re homophobic.

      • Anonymous January 28, 2014 at 10:41 am - Reply

        This is by far the dumbest thing I’ve ever read…. Carry on..

  13. Kareema July 13, 2013 at 3:38 pm - Reply

    What I was suspecting for a while, well since the duration of watching Mo and her daughter interact, that BondyBlue commentator voiced. I knew it! Akemi’s gripe may have little to do with her mom’s gay lifestyle and more to do with abandonment issues. Monifah as an Aquarian, surely you had to have picked up on this.

    Either way, you are a quality lady, so I’ll know it’ll work out for the both of y’all for the best. <3

  14. Dajouranlist July 13, 2013 at 11:35 am - Reply

    The Bible refers to it as a perversion and a sin.. not the young lady. She is just quoting the Bible. So does that mean the Bible is homophobic?

    If so, when gays get married they need to take the oath on a stack of Slim Jims instead of a Bible. I dont know why they would use a book that excludes them anyway,

    • Anonymous August 5, 2013 at 3:07 pm - Reply

      Yes, amongst many other forms of bigotry, the Bible is homomorphic.

      When you get married, you don’t need to take “an oath” on the Bible. Marriage licenses are govt issued.

      • Anonymous August 26, 2013 at 1:47 am - Reply

        Have fun in hell babe!

  15. Tory1977 July 12, 2013 at 6:20 am - Reply

    This whole article was a waste of my time in reading it. Monifah has shared her life with us. SO PLEASE GIVE HER AND HER DAUGHTER the space and the time that they need to work out their own issues. LEAVE FOLKS KIDS ALONE!!!! Regardless of what you think, LEAVE HER AND HER CHILD ALONE AND DON’T WRITE STUFF LIKE THIS THAT MAKES THE ISH EVEN WORSE!!!

    • Funky Nessa July 12, 2013 at 8:41 am - Reply

      Who are you to tell someone what to write? Don’t read it if you dont like it!

    • I'm Just Sayin July 12, 2013 at 8:55 pm - Reply

      Monifah’s daughter has a right to express her true opionion, everyone is not down with this “Adam & Adam and Eve & Eve” business, her daughter isn’t the only one who thinks that her mother’s relationship with “Big Red” is disgusting, and besides I’m that “Big Red” is only there for the money and TV airtime. What happen that was so bad in “Mo’s Life” that she “turned to sistas”….How sad….Low Self Esteem is a Green Eyed Monster.

    • Dominique July 13, 2013 at 10:55 am - Reply

      This article was written very well, and breaks ground for good Conversation that I’m some households it needs to happen. The young lady is a adult, she did choose to be on this show and share her views. No one made her sign the paper work to be on the show, or point a gun at her and make her express her thoughts on her mother life style. We are gonna talk about what’s right in forward of us, and some are gonna write about it. That’s just the way that it is.

  16. CDarayl July 12, 2013 at 12:35 am - Reply

    Everyone needs something to believe in, and calling someone homophobic simply because they don’t agree with the gay lifestyle is so hypocritical. The Gays want everyone to accept their choices, but you can love someone and care about someone without loving everything that they do. I know people and have family members who are gay, and no I don’t agree with it, but I don’t judge them and I don’t treat them any differently. Homosexuality is abnormal! How many animals do you see copulating with a member of the same sex? I’ll wait. None, because sex is for procreation! We are above animals, yet we have no clue about how to live as a society. My second point is, if you are gay, that is your business. Why does everyone have to know about it, agree with it, and have it thrown in their face? It’s sad how many of our black males are gay. I wouldn’t want anyone to live in shame, or to be depressed because they didn’t feel free to be with whomever they chose. But I also think homosexuality is ruining the black community and we are not giving our children proper influences. Hell, our generation is more confused now than ever! Sorry, I got so wordy….I think I will blog about my feelings on this subject at Spread Da Word . com. Check me out there

    • Christina July 12, 2013 at 1:15 am - Reply

      I don’t have a complete list, but wikipedia does:

      http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homosexual_behavior_in_animals

      Also, bonobos (One of our closest animal relatives) have a homosexual rate of 60% of all sexual encounters. So yes, homosexuality is completely normal and accepted in animals. Now can you name how many animals practice homophobia? I’ll wait, because there’s only one: humans.

      • Dre February 7, 2014 at 5:13 pm - Reply

        What process do you use to select what is natural based on animal behaviour to avoid a double standard? For example: Why is eating your young not natural but hommosexual behaviour is? What determining factor is used to draw the line? Unless you beleive humans eating their offspring is perfectly natural since a high percentage of animals do it.

    • gdukes July 12, 2013 at 3:13 am - Reply

      I completely agree

    • IsagetRight December 25, 2013 at 10:54 pm - Reply

      Being gay NOT a life-style, your ignorance is laughable and attempted justification only compounds your ingnorance. Homosexuality is no more a life-style than being Heterosexual…if you are going to speak with any sort of Authority on a topic educate yourself first. This also applies to the rest of you that have never bothered to actually understand the word of the Bible.

  17. nick July 11, 2013 at 11:43 pm - Reply

    omg homophobia is not a disease, ugh and belief in the word came first before this so-called homophobia do not try to open one book before closing another.

  18. Keisha Gray July 12, 2013 at 2:17 am - Reply

    Spark, I was about to like button, however I respectfully disagree that people HIDE behind the Bible to discriminate. One can be against the gay lifestyle AND be respect of treating everyone as equal and not harbor or inflict ill will. I see it in my own family in direct relation to gay people, those we say let live, a continue to love each other as FAMILY. I´m proud I am from a family that values the LOVE of family, rather than to ex-communicate ones who decide to live a gay lifestyle and not to ridicule. I watched one family member call an “intervention” for being gay, and it flopped when those of us said, that person is grown and capable of directing their own love lifestyle

  19. Keisha Gray July 12, 2013 at 2:10 am - Reply

    I never saw Monifah´s daughter be disrespectful. She states her morals and convicts AND remains loving to her mother in spite of the things that strained their relationship in the past. I see an example of a family that REMAINS a family in the mist of having an opposite feeling/belief/values/view off the other persons life choices. It sure beats the hell out of dis-owning family, being ugly and hateful w/ words. THEY LOVE AND RESPECT EACH OTHER, point, blank, and period. I agree with Spark, there has to be a better word than homophobic. What bother´s me the MOST is when someone voices their opinion for homosexual relationships is ROOTED in their FAITH, then why is that homophobic, and all Christian/Jewish/Muslim etc etc, pick any religion has those WITHIN the religion who disagree about this subject. For me at the end of the day, unless the person of an opposite belief than I is not murdering, stealing robbing from me or others, than do what you do and wait to judgment day, b/c as for ME I have to answer to my OWN sins on judgment day. Carry on …

  20. Spark Allen July 12, 2013 at 12:02 am - Reply

    someone needs to come up with a better word than homophobic. I call bullshit on it. a phobia is something that you´re afraid of. are so called “homophobic” people seriously afraid of gays? I doubt it. they may not agree with our “lifestyle” and that´s fine. that´s their prerogative. there´s a lot of things that I don´t agree with but I try to mind my own business if it doesn´t directly affect or hurt me or the ones I love. btw- being gay is NOT a “choice”. people that use religion and the bible as an excuse to discriminate against us- guess what? your religion IS a choice. discrimination, bigotry, racism, “homophobia”. all choices. we´re not born to hate. we´re taught it.

  21. Noelle Green July 11, 2013 at 11:48 pm - Reply

    You know…for gays to want and demand the upmost respect for how they choose to live their lives, they sure are dismissive about how others live theirs. WHY are they SO sensitive?

  22. Janae July 11, 2013 at 7:24 pm - Reply

    I think this article is ridiculous. This child did not refuse to speak with her mother because of her sexual orientation. She simply states that “her views are not that homosexuality is the way that the Bible stated we should live”. She has not refused to speak with her mother or her future wife. What is wrong with that? I have a problem that people are not allowed to have a belief anymore, no matter what that is, without being judged as homophobic. Are you not judging and doing the exact same thing you claim this homophobic person is because they do not agree with your beliefs that homosexuality is ok? Im not stating that I am for or against, what I am stating is that you cannot post your beliefs down someone elses’s throat whether that be being for or against homosexuality. Are we calling those people who do not believe in sex before marriage people who have hate for heterosexuals? So why is it always considered “hateful and homophobic” when a person doesn’t believe in the lifestyle that homosexuals live?

  23. Olivia July 11, 2013 at 7:07 pm - Reply

    Something needs to be made clear here, ‘disagreeing’ with someone’s sexuality for whatever reason IS homophobia. A persons sexuality is not to be agreed or disagreed by others. That’s like someone ‘objecting’ to my sex as a woman, you have no right and it makes you a misogynist. A persons sexuality is not up for approval and those who suggest it is are wrong. Stop trying to make nice and come up with ‘acceptable’ reasons to judge a persons sexuality. Just admit you are homophobic and be done.

    • jbboat July 14, 2013 at 3:58 pm - Reply

      So, I’m terribly afraid of spiders. Does that mean I “disagree” with them, or does that mean I have arachnophobia. GTFOH with that….

    • Chateau Sheree July 15, 2013 at 6:16 pm - Reply

      @Olivia You’re a retard… Try again.

  24. Derrick Mac July 11, 2013 at 10:24 pm - Reply

    Referring to sexuality as a “lifestyle” has a very specific use and history, and it is one of homophobia leveled against gays and lesbians. Straight people are RARELY thought to be engaging in a lifestyle unless they do something like swing. Otherwise, their sexuality is just referred to as being “straight”.

  25. Goldie Treasure July 11, 2013 at 10:16 pm - Reply

    Derrick, you are being overly sensitive. Saying homosexuality is a lifestyle is not homophobic, it is even said in reference to heterosexuality. Lifestyle is the way you live your life, not a damn thing homophobic about it.

  26. Joeneyce Cunningham July 11, 2013 at 10:05 pm - Reply

    I disagree. Not even going to read the article. That girl is sticking to her guns. I´m happy for her. It´s funny how Monifah was quick to discredit her daughter´s views because of her age and lack of life´s experiences. So….later in life, she should change how she originally felt? I hope not! She has a relationship with her mom and met with Mo´s lover. Does Mo want a celebration???? Geez!

  27. Dené Ever C July 11, 2013 at 9:56 pm - Reply

    I am a firm believer in education. I think that it is imperative for individuals to take a human sexuality psychology course, as it would alleviate some of the discord that we are enduring in this discussion board. There are many sexual orientations other than just “Straight”. Please refer to homosexuality as a sexual orientation instead of a lifestyle my straight brothers and sisters. We don´t call your straight relationships a lifestyle, so be respectful and learn to embrace other´s differences. Thank you Dineva for posting this and I hope that people´s negative views change for the improvement of human rights overall.

    #it´sAnewDamnday

    • the truth July 30, 2013 at 1:29 pm - Reply

      RIGHT!!!!!!!!!!

    • IsagetRight December 25, 2013 at 10:56 pm - Reply

      You are clearly for more intelligent than most of those responding on “theory” not facts.

  28. AJ July 11, 2013 at 5:55 pm - Reply

    I think the author of this article made an incorrect assessment of Akemi. Let’s be clear. The definition of “homophobia” is an extreme and irrational aversion, which is a strong or intense dislike or disinclination, to homosexuality and homosexual people. Akemi’s personal and religious beliefs are that homosexuality is a “sin” and a “pervasion”, but it is clear based on the show’s footage that Akemi loves her mother while disapproving her love for someone of the same sex. As a gay male myself, it can become easy to condemn, judge, and/or reject others who do not agree with homosexuality; however, we, as members of the LGBT community, must NOT perform these actions because this is not operating in love. As Americans, we have a myriad of beliefs, customs, rituals, expressions, backgrounds, etc. We should NOT expect others to agree with our beliefs or choices, but we MUST respect and love the other person. I’m thankful that Monifah allowed the viewers to see a relationship between a mother and her child with conflicting views, but nonetheless is completed saturated with love.

    Oh another note, homosexuality is not a lifestyle, because a lifestyle implies a warranted choice. The day that a person “chooses” to be gay is probably the same day that a person “chooses” to be a heterosexual.

    • Cc July 11, 2013 at 6:50 pm - Reply

      She is angry with her mom and trying to hurt her with the ‘homophobia’

    • Ms. Jay July 13, 2013 at 10:51 am - Reply

      You might not choose to be gay but you do choose to engage in homosexual relationships. It’s the engaging in homosexual relationships that is the “lifestyle” that people speak of. I’m a straight woman. However, I can choose to be celibate. I can choose to have relationships with men. And, I can also choose to have relationships with women. I could also choose to have relationships with men and women. Whichever of these I choose is my lifestyle choice.

  29. Dené Ever C July 11, 2013 at 9:42 pm - Reply

    Love thy neighbor and honor your mother. That´s all.

  30. Lancelot July 11, 2013 at 5:41 pm - Reply

    Monifah & Terez are both beautiful God fearing women in a same sex relationship. God doesn’t make no mistakes and when I see them and their love I see the God in them. R&B Divas is great to show this on TV. It’s brave of them to share with the world because of all the comments above. She must have thick skin cause she doesn’t seem like she needs anyone’s opinion to love. From her daughter or anyone. Terez must be pretty fierce and thick skinned too. I’m gla they exist cause the image of them both is saving a lot of gay lives. They make everyone respect them, Heterosexual or Homosexual alike. I hate when heterosexuals say Gay is a “choice” like they know. SMH. The world needs to do like Christ did and spend more time loving in his image.

  31. Derrick Mac July 11, 2013 at 9:36 pm - Reply

    Once Again: Referring to homosexuality AS A LIFESTYLE is HOMOPHOBIC! Also, referring to it as a PERVERSION or a SIN is also HOMOPHOBIC.

  32. Martamique Ajoku July 11, 2013 at 9:32 pm - Reply

    her daughter, is she homophobic, or just in disagreement with her mother´s lifestyle??

  33. Tina Jeneane July 11, 2013 at 9:05 pm - Reply

    Can you please come back from Pluto?#reaching….she is not homophobic, she just believes in what she believes in…Nothing wrong with that, at the end of the day she still loves and supports her mom…that is all that should matter!

  34. Shayla P Harrell July 11, 2013 at 9:01 pm - Reply

    I think it´s a bit much calling her homophobic. She clearly said she loves her mom just don´t agree with her lifestyle.

  35. Jaquel Jones July 11, 2013 at 8:57 pm - Reply

    ´´anything other than full acceptance of homosexuality is irrational´´…u cant be serious

  36. Julien July 11, 2013 at 4:46 pm - Reply

    She may not be homophobic but she is ignorant. She was probably raised by Cissy Houston the way she goes on. She needs some gay friends in her life or her va-jay-jay eaten!

    • Red Head July 11, 2013 at 5:36 pm - Reply

      WOW! Really?

  37. Jasmine Styles July 11, 2013 at 4:32 pm - Reply

    I’m a very supportive of the LGBT community and I have a cousin who is gay and I love him and he’s like a brother to me ; with that being said Not agreeing with the LGBT lifestyle because of religion does not make you homophobic. A Phobia is a excessive FEAR or CONTEMPT for something. We have family members who disagree with his lifestyle but they don’t fear it they let his boyfriend come to family functions and they respect him. just like Monifahs’ daughter respects her fiancé. It’s just like any lifestyle choice wether it be drinking smoking weed sex before marriage etc.. just because you don’t like it doesn’t mean you have disdain for a person. that’s ignorant

  38. Brenda July 11, 2013 at 4:31 pm - Reply

    As I’ve said before, “Kids are smarter than most Adults!” Mo’s daughter has every right in the world to express her beliefs. Homophobe my ass, that child believes in her Bible/teachings, so what’s the problem? Her mom is more of the problem for choosing drugs over raising her daughter. Her daughter don’t have to accept a damn thang, it’s her choice, just like its her moms choice to be gay. Sick of folks trashing the bible & Christians:-(

    I don’t have any issues with folks choosing to be gay, but I do have a problem with the G&LC thinking folks are hypocrites or homophobes because they don’t agree with their lifestyle/life choices. To each, their own! I’m not the final judge if anybody’s life, I’m only accountable for my own. Real Talk!!!

    I’m more concerned about Mo’s Meth Mouth than her lifestyle. It’s 2013 and its a crime to be walking around with gray teeth. Mo needs to take a few of those R&B coins down to the dentist office. Hell even Crest White Strips will bring that grill up at least 1 shade. ijs!!!

  39. Derrick Mac July 11, 2013 at 8:24 pm - Reply

    Calling your mom´s relationship with the love of her life is also harsh.

  40. Michelle M Patterson July 11, 2013 at 8:18 pm - Reply

    Homophobic seems a bit harsh.

  41. Whaaaaaaaat wait July 11, 2013 at 3:53 pm - Reply

    I don’t think she is homophobic….I think she sees her mom as the same drug addict she grew up with…I think she would take exception to anyone Monifah was marrying….

  42. Derrick Mac July 11, 2013 at 7:50 pm - Reply

    You should love gay people enough to not insult their existence by referring to their sexual orientation as a sin, as a perversion, and as a lifestyle. To do so is to engage in homophobia because anything other than full acceptance of homosexuality IS irrational.

  43. Shay July 11, 2013 at 3:43 pm - Reply

    whats funny to me is all of the people who are characterizing disagreement with the “gay lifestyle” as a normal difference of opinion. So someone can choose to disagree with you being black? with you being a woman? or a man? the belief that you can choose to disagree with a person’s ability to “be” is most definitely “phobic”.

    • Jbeez July 11, 2013 at 3:58 pm - Reply

      If someone disagrees with me being black, woman, or man still doesn’t equate with them having a fear or ” phobia” of me.

  44. Bridget Gatlin July 11, 2013 at 7:39 pm - Reply

    @Derrick, I am just beginning to understand the issue, I can understand how both sides feel, I have a very close family member that is gay & I love him dearly!! I do feel Straight & Gay people need to respect each other & stop saying hurtful things to each other!!

  45. Derrick Mac July 11, 2013 at 7:28 pm - Reply

    Note to Bridget: Referring to homosexuality as a “sin” and a “perversion” or a “lifestyle” is not rational.

    • Dajouranlist July 13, 2013 at 11:40 am - Reply

      I guess that would mean the Bible is not rational.

  46. Star Christian July 11, 2013 at 7:24 pm - Reply

    Reacccchhhhhhh. This man know he is biased, all lesbians aren´t nice and warm and loving. Just like you called the incident in kandi show made for tv drama, don´t you think this is too? He´ll for all we know monifah is mean and bitter

  47. Jillian July 11, 2013 at 3:17 pm - Reply

    To all previous posters: Someone’s sexuality is not for you to “agree” or “disagree” with. And it most definitely IS homophobic of Monifah’s daughter to call her mother perverted for being gay. Whether she got those beliefs from a bible of from her everyday experiences, she chooses to hold those beliefs, and they’re homophobic and bigoted beliefs! & if “God” feels that way, he’s a homophobe and a bigot too!

    • Jbeez July 11, 2013 at 3:59 pm - Reply

      Are you saying rather i agree or disagree I’ll still be homophobic by having an opinion of sexuality rather its favorable towards gays or not? And why can’t we agree or disagree with someone’s sexuality ? Who made those rules? And why does it always have to be a religious ideology when you disagree? I’m not Christian !

      • Jillian July 12, 2013 at 5:48 pm - Reply

        It means it’s none of your business what goes on between two consenting adults. How bout you worry bout you.

        • Jbeez July 13, 2013 at 9:02 pm - Reply

          Let me use YOUR faulty logic for a minute
          Is iit YOUR or anybody else’s business for that matter what goes on with Monifah and her daughter? Yet we are here commenting on it !! And if you say it’s our business because its on tv well Monifah and her lover is on t.v. So they are open for critique just like anybody Smh and how the hell your behind on a “gossip” blog speaking on what is and what ain’t somebody business !!!get ft outta here!! Lmao ctfu Bol

  48. Nugs July 11, 2013 at 3:16 pm - Reply

    The excuses people are posting on here are sickening. So if one doesn’t agree with whites mixing with blacks, isn’t that racist? If one disagrees that women should have the same opportunities as men, isn’t that sexist? But you all on your high horses can disagree with gay relationships and not be homophobic.

    American christians are a joke. People are losing their homes, but this cult has millions of dollars in the bank to fight against gay marriage. They not homophobic though. Right.

    • Jbeez July 11, 2013 at 4:16 pm - Reply

      No that’s not racism or racist that’s prejudice . There is a distinct difference between the two . Predijuice is a part of human nature…there is not escaping it! Racism on the other hand is global white supremacy , it is systematic , it is institutional, and essential for whites survival! Racism allows whites privivalege, entitlement , and power based on their skin!!

      The example you used for sexist is really discrimination based on gender. Discrmination is the prejudicial and/or distinguishing treatment of an individual based on their actual or perceived membership in a certain group or category. In order for a person to discriminate they actually have to exhort their power.

      Just because someone doesn’t agree with something a person does doesn’t mean they discriminate against them! If you have no power to exhort you disagreement is just that a disagreement.

      It’s very important to know the differences between these three terms that are often misused…it will take you very far in life

      Btw I’m not a Christian , I’m just an asshole who likes to comment on blogs 😉

  49. Brit Allen July 11, 2013 at 7:16 pm - Reply

    B/c she doesn´t agree that makes her homophobic that´s her belief..lol smh

  50. Bridget Gatlin July 11, 2013 at 7:11 pm - Reply

    Homophobia is an extreme & irrational aversion to homosexuality & homosexual people, Monifah´s daughter not agreeing with her lifestyle is not extreme or irrational, she still loves & respects her mom othewise!!!

  51. Felicia Cole July 11, 2013 at 7:08 pm - Reply

    Seriously? Why is that when someone does not condone nor agree with homosexuality/lesbianism, they are “homophobic” or a “hate monger”.? Monifah´s daughter is not homophobic…because of her faith she is not accepting of her mother´s lifestyle and that is her right. A lot of people in the LGBT community really need to stop trying to force everyone to accept their way of life and stop judging people and name calling because everyone is not going to accept it.

  52. TK July 11, 2013 at 3:06 pm - Reply

    I agree with the first two comments on this post. This anti-intellect individual is always quick to label somebody homophobic. It’s so annoying. People are NOT always going to agree with the your lifestyle but that is THEIR right. They don’t have to if they don’t want to. People are entitled to their opinion even if it goes against theirs. He is really starting to sound like a bitter ass person who has nothing better to do with their life but try and force their opinion on others and sit their and monitor every LGBT comment or instance that occurs in the urban community. He is just as bad as those people over at GLAAD chile.

    Another thing, how in the world can he associate Monifah being in & out of her daughter’s life as a reason for her being “homophobic”? Child what does one have to do with the next??? Furthermore, how can you dissect this woman’s entire relationship with her daughter abut a topic so from a few episodes on a TV show? How exactly is Akemi ignorant again?? Oh wait let me see, she’s ignorant because she is going by HER religious beliefs and what is documented in the Bible which is used by HER religion. Actually, she isn’t ignorant at all. She’s very educated on what she believes and has documentation to prove it.

    There’s no ignorance in that chile. You can’t label something ignorant because it goes against what you believe. Anti-Intellect is in fact the ignorant one because he still can’t seem to grasp to difference between standing strong in your beliefs and ignorance.

    OK I’m done.

  53. Suzette Wright July 11, 2013 at 7:05 pm - Reply

    This isn´t even a close call. She is definitely homophobic.

  54. Amanda Garcia July 11, 2013 at 6:58 pm - Reply

    Happy for Monifah!! She has to continue living and loving her life. One life to live she can not allow her daughter beliefs hinder her happiness.

  55. Derrick Mac July 11, 2013 at 6:58 pm - Reply

    Where did you all get that homosexuality is a lifestyle? It´s a sexual orientation. Being gay is not like gambling or crocheting, something people pick up as a hobby or something.

  56. Saida Mitchell July 11, 2013 at 6:56 pm - Reply

    You can love someone without approving of their lifestyle.

  57. Fredrick L. Bishop BA July 11, 2013 at 6:55 pm - Reply

    As a gay man who has experienced homophobia from family members, I feel for Monifah, and I love Monifah for remaining the loving and accepting mother regardless of her daughter´s disapproval and disgust. There is, however, a great pain that comes with family that refuses to love and fully accept who you are as far as sexual orientation. You try to overlook it, but the negative comments and hurtful statements make it difficult. In the almost two years that I have been out of the closet, I have been told that I was “giving up Heaven and going straight to Hell,” I have been told by someone that “I don´t like men who like men,” I have received disgusted and squeamish looks, and all of this came from my immediate family (my paternal side). One relative told me that if her daughter were gay and she came in her house with a lover, she´d shoot them. To make matters worse, the Bible was used to justify how they felt (Btw, using the Bible or religion as a green light to disrespect, ostracize, or harm others for being gay is insane). I don´t care what you do, if you are human, you are in the same boat I´m in. We have imperfections, flaws, emotions, feelings, idiosyncrasies, and crosses to bear. At the end of the day, we want our families to love us, accept us, and support us. My grandpa once said that as long if you´re not hurting anybody or yourself, then I´m fine with whatever you do. Everyone has their own opinions about gay marriage/homosexuality, but regardless of those opinions, FAMILY IS FAMILY and TRUE LOVE IS TRUE LOVE, no matter the sexual orientation.

    • Zion MarQuiese Devereaux July 31, 2013 at 4:34 pm - Reply

      Family, friends or others do not have to “accept” your sexuality.
      That is for YOU to accept.
      My mother does not agree with my sexuality however I have NEVER asked her to “accept” my sexuality. I am sleeping with the men- not her.
      Her only job is to love me unconditionally. She doesn’t have to love what I do, who I do and why I do.
      She is to love me, her son, her firstborn.
      Homosexuals always want someone to “accept” them.
      That is YOUR job to do.
      If you need someone to validate YOUR sexuality then you have more issues than you really think.

  58. Jbeez July 11, 2013 at 2:53 pm - Reply

    * DISCLAIMER*I’m not trying to be rude therrefore i ask my qusetions as genuinely and humbly as possible*I just want to know what is homophobia? If you disagree with homosexuality does that make you homophobic ! i thought a phobia was Ian exaggerated usually inexplicable and illogical fear !I’m not afraid or have a irrational fear of homosexuals but just confused because it sees like if you disagree with ANYTHING a homosexual person does you are labeled as being homophobic nowadays !!! I’m confused… where do we draw the line between normal human disagreement of behaviors and homophobia?
    And I’m not taking up for Akemi I just truly want to know this from a gay persons point of view because quiet as its kept I’m afraid to joke with my gay male friends on social media because of fear of being labeled!!

  59. Surbrineo Johnson Finley July 11, 2013 at 6:53 pm - Reply

    She love her mom but she don´t have to love her moms choice. It´s her religious belief!! Choice we all have them..

  60. Derrick Mac July 11, 2013 at 6:52 pm - Reply

    A. Homosexuality is a sexual orientation, not a lifestyle choice. B. Calling someone´s sexual orientation a “sin” and a “perversion” is, in fact, homophobic. You all need to stop making excuses for Monifah´s daughter, she is definitely homophobic.

  61. Jevon July 11, 2013 at 2:52 pm - Reply

    Dineva, like you say it’s good to know when jump ship. Well boo now would be the time for you to jump ship with this writer. Kick them off. To the writer; Akemi’s faith doesn’t make her a homophobe if anything I applaude her for sticking to her guns while on tv knowing what it might do to her personally. Just because someone doesn’t believe as you do that homosexuality is ok, doesn’t make them a homophobe, a bad person or a bigot. If that be the case then you are a heterophobe, bad person and a bigot because you can’t tolerate her views. Akemi has shown that even through it all that she loves her mother and has not disrespected terez. She’s trying to build a relationship even though she doesn’t agree with the lifestyle. It’s no different then if you had a drug user in your family. You’d love them but you wouldn’t like the drug use. I will say if this write keeps mischaracterizing people on this site I’m sure Dineva won’t be around too long.

  62. Unbothered July 11, 2013 at 2:50 pm - Reply

    Here’s the thing. Monifah’s daughter is not homophobic. She does not hate her mother for being a lesbian. She simply doesn’t agree with it. And while that is sad and unfortunate, it is definitely her right to agree or disagree with it, whatever the reasons behind it may be. I’ve watched the show, and I’ve never seen her approach the subject, or address her mother or Terez, in a disrespectful or aggressive or HOMOPHOBIC manner. As a gay man, and furthermore as a human being and a grown ass adult, I know that everyone is not going to agree with or support everything that I choose to do in my life. NO ONE is. That doesn’t make them homophobic, or haters, or whatever term one wants to use. Stop expecting everyone to agree with or like what you do. Everyone has an opinion, and there’s nothing wrong with that. There IS something wrong with condemning someone for having an opinion different from yours.

  63. Jess July 11, 2013 at 2:49 pm - Reply

    I wonder why this writer assumes that Monifa’s daughter doesn’t love her because she doesn’t agree with her lifestyle? I don’t agree with my mother’s lifestyle of shacking up with a no-good man that’s not her husband – but we still love one another.

    From what I saw on R&B Divas, there is no lack of love in their relationship. They don’t agree on this, but it still looks like they love one another to me.

  64. Katina F Babay July 11, 2013 at 6:48 pm - Reply

    that daughter is a mess ..im sorry

  65. Goldie Treasure July 11, 2013 at 6:46 pm - Reply

    I think her daughter is homophobic, she may not be the extreme type you see holding up signs saying: “F@gs are going to hell.” but she did call her mother´s lifestyle a perversion which is pretty f´ed up.

  66. Goldie Treasure July 11, 2013 at 6:46 pm - Reply

    I think her daughter is homophobic, she may not be the extreme type you see holding up signs saying: “F@gs are going to hell.” but she did she did call her mother´s lifestyle a perversion which is pretty f´ed up.

  67. Maria Bruce July 11, 2013 at 6:45 pm - Reply

    The name “Anti Intellect” fits the writer of this blog perfectly.

  68. Tara Bigelow July 11, 2013 at 6:44 pm - Reply

    the bible says(something to the effect of) to hate or not approve/praise the sin and NOT the person…I don´t see how she is homophobic at all she loves her mom and her moms girlfriend she just doesn´t approve of there life style which is no different then a non smoker not approving of a smoker. As long as she is not disrespectful then she can have her opinion.

  69. Cathy Moss July 11, 2013 at 6:42 pm - Reply

    Her daughter is so wrong to talk to her mother that way beat her ass

  70. Catoya Lundy July 11, 2013 at 6:40 pm - Reply

    Due to her religious beliefs she does have an aversion to the gay “lifestyle” (as if its a choice)…so by definition she is homophobic.

  71. Rhonda Kelso July 11, 2013 at 6:40 pm - Reply

    Homophobic? I didnt now thats what you say when someone just disagrees with homosexuality… smh

  72. Lady B July 11, 2013 at 2:40 pm - Reply

    Just becz a person don’t agree with the gay lifestyle DO NOT make them homophobic!!! It is possible to Love the sinner & Dislike the Sin. That’s what I gather from what I’ve seen of Monifah’s daughter.

  73. Fox Candee July 11, 2013 at 6:40 pm - Reply

    this article is reaching all the way to mars..

  74. Killahkey July 11, 2013 at 2:39 pm - Reply

    I didn’t like this post at all 🙁 I don’t like how your writer correlated monifah’s daughter’s love to her personal beliefs. While I don’t agree with her staunch Christian views, I respect how she respects her mother. Everyone is not going to agree on homosexuality, that’s their prerogative- but to say she doesn’t love her mother & kind of bash her was wrong, I understand as a gay make how strongly he may feel on the subject but this was a horrible article in my opinion :-/ ignorance on ignorance.

  75. HOUSE of V REMY July 11, 2013 at 6:38 pm - Reply

    lol@homophobic…that´s a stretch!!!

  76. Michelle Hall July 11, 2013 at 6:34 pm - Reply

    She is not homophobic. She just tells her mother what she believes

  77. NayNay Martin July 11, 2013 at 6:34 pm - Reply

    Who cares

    • Anonymous July 11, 2013 at 5:10 pm - Reply

      Obviously you if you read it or even clicked on it to comment.

  78. April Changing-Mylife Chambers July 11, 2013 at 6:32 pm - Reply

    She´s not judging her mom . She doesn´t agree with her decision that´s not judging she still love abd respect her mother even wuth differents beliefs

  79. Jordette Singleton July 11, 2013 at 6:31 pm - Reply

    How us her daughter “homophobic”??? Y´all are trying it today….

  80. Debra Peniston-Lasseter July 11, 2013 at 6:31 pm - Reply

    I feel that monifahs daughter is entitled to her own opinion. Iam not homophobic but eveyone is entitled to there own opinion. i can imagine this hurts her deeply

  81. Nikki Brown July 11, 2013 at 6:30 pm - Reply

    Her daughter was not raised by her and therefore she cannot hate that she has her religious based beliefs on her mothers lifestyle. I think she loves her daughter no matter what because they both have a mutual respect for one another (Despite their personal beliefs and lifestyles)

  82. Shamikka Frankie Robinson July 11, 2013 at 6:29 pm - Reply

    i feel she should push her religious thoughts to the side and support her mother because at the end of the day she being a hypocrite because she´s judging

  83. Erica Jones July 11, 2013 at 6:29 pm - Reply

    yea i wouldnt call her homophobic ether..she just doesnt agree with her moms choice and lifestyle..but she still seems to support & love her mom..thats not homophobia! everybody aint gonna agree with homosexuality! homophobia is lack of respect PERIOD!

  84. Myisha Coleman July 11, 2013 at 6:27 pm - Reply

    That girl is not homophobic lol

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