Why Are Reality Stars So Hellbent On Using Homosexuality As An Insult? Being Gay Is Not An Insult!!!

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Post Written By: Anti Intellect. The Views and opinions of the post are explicitly Anti Intellect’s

What is it about Love & Hip Hop Atlanta that makes the cast so hellbent on using homosexuality an insult? The past few months have seen at least five members of the cast using the possibility that another cast member might be gay to attack and insult them. This form of homophobia is quite common in our society that all too often treats being gay as something negative, something to be ashamed of, and something that is degrading.

Twitter has most often been the location where these homophobic arguments among the members of the cast have played out. Earlier this year, Mimi and Benzino got into an argument on Twitter which saw them both using the prospect of the other being gay to attack and insult one another. Mimi threw out that Benzino is “suppose to be a heterosexual” and that they should “talk about the dicks in his ass.” Benzino accused Mimi of having had a threesome with another woman, and having performed oral sex with another woman. Both of the are examples of straight people using the specter of homosexuality as something to attack and/or insult another person with. The idea being that not being straight is something one needs to be ashamed of.


Joseline, another member of the cast, has had her fair share of Twitter arguing that involved homosexuality being used to insult a fellow member of the cast. Joseline, herself the target of homophobic and transphobic attacks, took to her Twitter to call out fellow member of the cast, and sometimes boyfriend, Stevie J. During the October exchange, Joseline says, “Don’t get mad cause I don’t want your gay ass no more, your faggot ass undercover.” She goes on to say, “Dudes get mad when you find out they faggots.” Joseline uses outright homophobic language, and the prospect of Stevie being gay, to attack him during their argument. Joseline would later claim that she wasn’t talking about her Stevie J.

kirk k michelleThe most recent example of reality “stars” using gay as an insult involved K. Michelle and fellow member of the cast Rasheeda’s husband Kirk Frost. Frost repeatedly implies that K. Michelle is a lesbian in an attempt to attack her. Kirk attacks K. Michelle saying, “You’ve had so many relationships with girls in ATL you gotta move. I’m waiting for you to be real, let it be known you like women.” On the surface, these comments may not look homophobic, but as far as we know, K. Michelle identifies as a straight woman. Further, Kirk “outing” K. Michelle is, itself, a form of homophobia often used to shame and attack others. K. Michelle uses male femininity to attack Kirk and imply that he, himself, is not straight. She says, “You are a grown man walking around with four earrings in your ear.” The exchange between K. Michelle and Kirk takes on a decidedly sexist and misogynistic nature along with the fact that it is homophobic. Kirk calls K. Michelle a “tramp”, a label often used to attack women for not fitting a sexist notion of womanhood. And K. Michelle’s questioning Kirk’s sexual orientation–because he has multiple earrings in his ear and argues with women–relies on sexist notions of what is appropriate for men and women.

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The homophobia, sexism, and misogyny witnessed during the arguments these arguments are by no means unique to VH1, Black people, or reality TV. We live in a culture that, unfortunately, continues to see homosexuality as shaming, negative, and insulting despite the historic strides that are being made in the LGBT rights movement. Further, sexism notions of men’s and women’s behaviors and choices continues to be taught and condoned in the wider culture.

As a proud openly gay man, I want Mimi, Benzino, Joseline, K. Michelle, and Kirk to know that my sexual orientation it not an insult. I suggest straight people find another way to attack each other when they argue. There is nothing wrong with being gay.

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60 thoughts on “Why Are Reality Stars So Hellbent On Using Homosexuality As An Insult? Being Gay Is Not An Insult!!!

  1. There is something wrong with it!! Ask God. He said it’s an abomination. You’re saying it’s okay cuz it’s something you like doing. I wish people like you and the media would stop this lie saying this shit is okay, making kids think it’s something they can do, and it’s okay. Hell naw!! You weren’t orn this way!! You probably got molested by a man at a young age or it’s just some disgusting shit you just choose to do. It’s a choice, and you can help it!! Stop the damn lies!! You gon bust Hell wide open. There is a place for your gay ass in Hell!!

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    • Get your funky A$$ off here that bull! If you work from home then why the hell are you on here! Ain’t nobody got time for that!

  3. @Kozy I think it’s ignorant to take your friend’s opinion of themselves and associate it as a general opinion of people who relate to their sexuality. Their story isn’t everyone’s story. What I do agree on is that there is a choice to act on your sexuality, but that does not just apply to homosexuals. As a heterosexual you made the choice to act on your sexuality as well which is no different than me choosing to act on mine. Still though the choice does not excuse the natural feelings that one has toward the same sex or the opposite sex. That attraction is not learned nor is it a choice to feel that way. I think the comments that believe that being called gay is an insult or that believe being gay is a choice are rationalizations of both avoidance and denial. To avoid you’re recognizing the problem but don’t offer an solution to address the problem and those that are in denial don’t see this as being a problem at all. Society really needs to get with the program and look at people for who they are and not for who they believe they are!

  4. so a man (patriarchy) can be dishonest about his other ’19 women and baby-mamas’ to his wife but not his ‘homeboy’ whom he experimented with ONE time? Do you see why rappers feel they can call you all kind of ‘h., b’s,…put credit cards in ‘light-skinned women’s behinds? It’s dl mentality like yours that keep black women on the ‘damn bottom. dl also means irresponsible men who donate sperm to depressed women, but never step in as ‘daddy, boo.

  5. several of my friends told me they chose to be gay and wasnt born that way…and even if they had thoughts to like the same sex… they never chose to act on them…….so thats why my understanding of being gay is by choice because you have to make the decision to act on the feeling inside you…i cant seem to think children that are born right now actually is gay…its doesnt make sense to me…but to each its own…gay straight bi sexual…im responsible for me….and im straight…

    • the law allows you to be whatever you want to be; whosoever has a problem with it is dishonest, mean-spirited, and miserable. ‘black folks’ too busy tearing down and throwing stones at others WILL remain at the bottom in the USA.

  6. Happyn Blessed your understanding is all wrong then. Who in their right mind would choose to be ridiculed, outcasted, forced to live in secret?? Some hell of a choice. Additional, it ain’t what it is. You bring up the bible and god, but the WHOLE world is not christian. What if someone is Buddhist? You can’t take what christians believe and apply to EVERYONE in the world. I don’t want to start a religious debate. I respect your religious beliefs. However, I encourage you to NEVER again in life say being gay is a choice. TRUST ME, IT IS NOT.

    • I agree that homosexuality is not a choice. I have grown up with friends who were gay in kinder garden. However, bisexuality is an entirely different matter.

      I have lived most of my life in Southern California, in and around the entertainment industry. Out here, people change their sexual orientation with the weather.

    • exhibit A, the Constitution’s ‘first’ amendment is freedom of religion: a hateful white supremacist religion (white jesus) is the last thing black people need about now w/ 68% black male unemployment and 1000 dead kids in Chicago. -ruth

  7. Being gay from what i understand in human terms is a choice..but n da bible its an abomination./this word defined is disgusting..n god made us n he calls it disgusting..then it is wat it is..2 him..and it seems 2 care about what god thinks or what he purposed 4 mankind…

    • do you ‘haters with judgments’ stand up against the ‘straight uncle-aunt-cousin TOMS who shoot everybody that moves in the ghetto? /that’s where your judgments and ‘bibles are needed yesterday.

    • I cam name a whole bunch of straight people that are abominations ….like ted bundy … osama bin ladin …. hmmm you get the picture. sexual prefence does not dictate wether you are god like or not … being straight does not make you a better person it just makes you a person … straight people do some crazy things … Let use common sense

  8. You make a number of valid points. However, I do not think Joseline is homophobic. She has already said that she is bi-sexual. She has a number of gay friends,(including you?).

    Joseline may be like me; in that, I love gay men. However, I have no patience with down low men. To lie to a partner about one’s sexual orientation is unforgiveable–a real deal breaker. If a man lies about sleeping with other men, he will lie about anything.

    • little kids growing up resort to SUICIDE in black community because of ‘damage spirits’ from damaged -big-mouth-loud-hurt angry adults who forget that GOD loves all his chullin.’

      • When men have with sex with each other and then go home to have unprotected sex with their wives and girlfriends, it places these women in a precarious position. AIDS is rising fastest amongst African American women. We will not stand for this type of deceit. No man is worth dying for. Come correct, or do not come at all.

        • boo; these uncle-aunt-cousin toms are bringing aids to the community via DRUGS, ‘yo boyfriend sellin rocks type. You buy his obnoxious lyrics in songs (even the lil baby know to call you ‘out yo name)and shake yo butt at ‘da club til he gets mad and drunk and start shooting ‘other boys’ in the neck. This is the dl too; every thing’s out in the open, you just refuse to ‘see.

  9. Well I agree but its my Life and I will live it as I Want. To yes I love Gay Self and read ur bibles God loves me more ♡♥♡♥♡♥

  10. u can keep it real about everything else but u cant keep it real about being gay really?? stand up for who u are and be PROUD!! ONLY GOD CAN JUDGE U!!! a he loves all his children Amen!

  11. K has openly admitted to dating women, I think she was trying to attack Kirk because he attacked her. Kirk needs to worry abiut his molestation allegations, rather than worrying about K’s sexual orientation.

  12. If a gay man is in the closet and still sleeping with women who do not know he is sleeping with men, that isn’t ok in any version of Earth. Being gay is NOT an insult. Lying about it and sleeping with women who don’t know should be.

  13. I personally don’t think K.Michelle has a problem with homosexuality, I think her issue with Kirk and Mimi’s boyfriend is that they date/married women knowing they are on the down low. I have followed K.Michelle from the beginning of her career when most people didn’t know who she was, and she has always been open about her sexuality. She has admitted to trying to date a woman and wrote song about it, so she’s not bashing she just doesn’t like down low men. People should be mad at Kirk starting this mess.

  14. I just feel like if your gay, then be gay. Like who the fuck cares? anyone who has a problem with a gays or lesbians, they have insecurities that NEED to be worked out.

  15. No there’s nothing wrong with being gay, expect when you are, and pretend that you’re not. It’s the deception behind it. I can’t stand DL men. Just be real.

    • a man can be down low if he wants; dl is also a man who has a wife and a mistress. crickets. Straight people throwing stones and judgement make matters worse. I knew a couple where the wife had a husband and a wife in the ‘hood back in the 60′s; they were minding their own business is the point without hurting the ‘feelings of unimportant strangers.

      • No a man CANNOT be DL if he wants (and I’m talking about the gay DL phrase). Personally, I’m sick of these DL men using women to hide the fact that they like dyck because they’re too cowardly to be truthful. To hell with what society says, and frankly, I think they use that BS as an excuse too. The real reason is because they are lying to themselves and can’t/won’t face the fact they are gay (or like banging men). It’s NOT fair to the woman. She did not ask to be a part of his lying deceptive lifestyle. He pulled her into it.

        • I’m with you, hugs and kisses. Thanks to my openly gay friends, I know every trick in the book. I can tell a down-low brother from a mile away.

          • Me too. I think my DL/gaydar is so sharp, that they run from me. It’s like know I can see right through their lies.

  16. Why is anyone? I was on a certain blog, and all the “blind items” were, this person is gay, that person is gay. I’m like is this the worst that you can come up with? I’m more appalled by a dead beat parent or a drug addict….

  17. i wish society would just get over it and let people be comfortable with who they choose to be and quit stigmatizing it…then maybe people could quite living lies… i bet the std rate would go down

  18. its not being homosexual thats the issue its lying about it and pretending to be something your not.

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