Why Shawty Lo having 10 Baby Mammas Isn’t As Bad As It Sounds
The minute the promo for Shawty Lo’s new reality show hit the web, my email and twitter accounts would not stop bussing. I for one immediately scoffed at the foolishness and decided that i would not be covering this. I figured there would be enough media outlets covering this mess that I could not contribute any commentary of valuable. Much to my dismay, i was wrong.
We as Americans have been conditioned to believe that a family looks like one man and one woman, raising two kids with a dog, and living in a white house with a picket fence. The recent legalization of gay marriage in certain states has forced us to reconsider what a “family” looks like. A Friend of the blog, Anti-Intellect has yet again forced me to reconsider my views of what a family looks like. Anti-Intellect sheds light on the fact that Shawty Lo is present in all of his kids lives and the women found it prudent to coexist for the sake of their children. Check Out Anti-Intellects sentiments in their entirety and let me know what you think.
I don’t get why I am supposed to find this off-putting. Sure, this is not the cookie-cutter nuclear ideal of a family that so many of you all seem hell bent on modeling, but so what? There is no “right” or “wrong” way to arrange a family. We complain about men being absent in their children’s lives, and we complain about families not sticking together, and here is a family that is making it work in spite of the disapproval of hypocritical and judgmental people. How many of us come from “ideal” families? Ask yourselves that before you are so quick to judge another person’s family configuration. It’s funny that everyone is clutching their pearls about this show, but the Duggars can ride the “Good Christian Family” express until the wheels fall out. I find this family endearing, and I am glad that this man values his family and that the women seem to be interested in sticking together for the sake of the kids. I’m way past castigating or looking down on people or situations because it differs from my own. More power to Shawty Lo and the mothers of his children.
What are your thoughts about what he had to say?
30 Responses to “Why Shawty Lo having 10 Baby Mammas Isn’t As Bad As It Sounds”
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Anti-Intellect makes some good points, but having ten baby mammas is just tacky. There is really no other way to look at this. And the same goes for “Sister Wives,” etc. It might work for them, but all of those half-siblings and exes (or currents) hanging around would never work for me. It’s unnecessary friction and drama that I’m not dealing with. Relationships are difficult enough without adding all of that responsibility to the picture. Anyway, I think it’s a little crazy to take a boyfriend so seriously that you’re willing to have a child with him in the first place. A boyfriend doesn’t warrant that kind of effort. This show is definitely not for me.
Ok, after reading all the post I’m convinced there are many opinions about this reality show. Now, put a white face on this man and it’s called a mormon families living situation. While I do not agree with this kind of ridiculous living situation, nor do I conceed that being a “baby momma” is some sort of badge to strive for. However, I do agree with the fact that this man regardless to his obvious lack of responsibily when it comes to safe sex, I do pat him on the back for not turning his back on these women or the children. Don’t get me wrong he is not a postor child for morals or a role model for anyone, nor are these women. But they have made a conscious decision to at the very least try to make the best of f*^cked up situation they alone have presented to the lives of all involved. Now, how many women out there would like to be able to save in child care? How many kids would love to know who their brothers and sisters are? Yes, this is a bad situation, but there some benifits to it. This “family” made lemonade out of lemons!! That’s the bottom line. What remains to be seen is whether these “relationships”, hopefully positive ones will last. If these women are true sisters to one another, then I give kudos to Mr Lo and his haram of women. What counts here are the children and examples we present to them. Keeping it real and instilling in them, that yes we make mistakes but we can alter the outcomes if given the opportunity.
So will they show how in the past his baby mothers were airing each others dirty laundry out to the public on radio stations? Will they show how they were fighting in the streets? Will they discuss that prior to his being able to provide for his family that they were receiving govt aid because couldnt provide for the children he had at the time but proceeded to make more? Oxygen no longer gets any of my ratings because of the Bad Girls Club. I will be watching old 90′s and 2000′s sitcomes.
Spin it anyway you like but having 10 women having your children is not a good look. Unless your in another part of the world and they are all your wives that you have provided seperate housing for, and are taking care of them financially.
True:
He is in the children’s lives.
He is taking care of them.
The mothers all coexist for the sake of the family.
There is no right or wrong way to construct a family.
Though all of that may be true, I find it very troubling that all the people who agree with the above sentiments don’t find it troubling for a man to have that much unprotected sex with that many women and risk putting that many kids in situations that we know all too well in the ghettos of America: poverty, broken families, and a whole host of other ills that tend to befall people in this situation. The only thing that is keeping Shawty Lo and his family out of this situation is the fact that he was able to acquire a little bit of wealth from rapping. Had he not been given that opportunity, who is to say that his family wouldn’t be another verse in the same old dysfunctional song? I agree with the notion of stepping away from what society deems ‘right’ and ‘wrong.’ But when certain things, like having multiple children by multiple women, have historically helped to cripple the upward mobility of people who need it the most, I wholeheartedly agree with society when they say those things are, in fact, dead wrong.
Also, do people no longer care about the perpetuation of stereotypes? Do people no longer care that they, as an underrepresented group in America, need as much positive publicity as possible? Whether we want to realize it or not, we don’t run anything. This is not about catering to whites. It’s about making sure that we as black people are not denied opportunities based off some misconception planted in people’s heads by a TV show. I know that making assumptions based off of a narrow view is wrong, but lets not act as if we don’t make generalizations based off of what we see in movies/tv and read in books. Sure, people need to be less ignorant and not discriminate based off of such menial, inaccurate things like television. But who is more at fault here: the people who will believe what the media pushes, or the actual media who deliberately perpetuates these images with the sole intentions of exploitation? The answer is overwhelmingly obvious.
I loved the Oxygen network… Until now. I will no longer watch anything on this network. The goal of this how is to show people act a fool, not family cohesiveness like the Duggars or Sisterwives. Even if we had more positive programming, this stereotype of a ‘Buck’ having a stable of women is disgusting.
What will happen will be fighting, crying , etc. imagine the spin off potential of each woman having her own show? Or when he proposes to one of he woman and cause heartbreak? It’ll be Keisha Cole all over again…. I’ll pass on this show and this network.
The goal of Oxygen & the show’s creators is to have their audience talking & tweeting about this foolishness. Are we to applaud him for being in his kid’s lives? That’s your RESPONSIBILITY!!! This may not be the “ideal” family but I absolutely refuse to co-sign on this foolishness.
Shawty Lo might have that type of idea “Oh I’m taking care of my kids and making it work despite it looking shaky.” HOWEVER, this is not the SPIN that Oxygen is putting on this show. It’s already begin set up to be oppositional. First of all look at the NAME of the show “All my 10 Baby Mamas” Now YTs show is called SISTERWIVES! The name alone shows the difference in how the familes are being viewed. As a ppl yes we need to define & at times REdefine our family structure but FOH we also need to control how the media uses us. I say FUCK NO to this show! This is not how I live MY life & the majority of the Black ppl I know don’t as well. But LO & behold I’m sure YT america will embrace this bullshit w/open arms & when I decide to get married & have children they’ll be asking me “Who is your BABY DADDY?”
Nah I dont’ like it & am NOT going to pretend. Get this shit & Every LHHATL/NYC/NJ show off the damn air!
Blacks in Power are wasting time promoting STEREOTYPES in our communities instead of showing more well rounded images. Now yes we got some Ratchet, but we also have some Squares & a Mixup in between. I’m tired of seeing RATCHET!!! This is to Stephen Hill, Mona Scott, Shaunie O’neal & all the rest of ya’ll blacks selling us out in the boardroom for $$$
It aint no different from that show sister wives on tlc… the only difference is shawty lo aint married to any of them and he don’t seem to be a dead beat dad he know all his kids names he know all his babymamas… realisticly though that’s some damn drama,yo will never hear of another man having all his baby moms in his house and git the nerve to have a girlfriend lol straight cray!!
And this is why “Black Men” get a bad rap, it’s ok to have a “Hundred Kids” and not marry the kids Mom??? Ladies this is why you need to get to know the guy and his family background before diving into the “Muddy Waters”….I digress.
When you make someone a wife you give them legal rights. You can not have common law marriage with more than person either. Their is a big difference between a baby mother and a wife. Very big difference if you live in a state where there isnt any common law
A few years ago, I had a conversation about this subject and how there will be many children born retarded because their parents are closely related and have no idea. She told me that it could have happened to her. She was flirting with a guy she liked and they both began to name drop and bam!! They both did the ‘oh thats my daddy’. Its getting real folks and its not cute. Its too many kids that don’t and will never know who they are
Like it not, this plot IS the norm for our race in most of our communities- regardless of the # of kids that have the same father, but different mothers. Displaying this reality on tv will not hurt the “Black” community any more than it’s already hurting. For those that consider it shameful, or degrading for this family to display their reality, ask yourself why? Oh, because he didn’t marry any of them? No wait, because the women are accepting of the “baby momma” moniker? I have no opinion of these people, because I don’t know them. I try to look for positive in people, places, & things rather than belittling, or prejudging before the fact. Who knows, perhaps Young men and women will watch the show & be encouraged to do better.
Its the norm where I live. The average 35 year old has several children by several different people. People making children with one person for their entire lifetime rarely happens. Remember Lil Wayne was getting cuddos and high fives for having two women knocked up at the same time.
This black buck whoring around with these low self esteem black women in front of their children
,yeah I am going to co-sign that, chile please. It is morally apprehensible, on shorty low and oxygens part. He adds to a stereotype that is culturally detrimental, if you are going to show it fine but don’t make it seem like it is ok, because it is not. Note: he is also sleeping with a child the same age as his children, his elder children have only seen a revolving door of women in there lives along with a lack of fidelity(great parenting), stop spraying perfume on this pig.
DID Y’ALL SEE THE FOURTH ONE WITH THE KIDS IN THE UNIFORM, HOLY MOSES! DISGUSTING! AND WITH HIS UGLY ASS! REMEMBER WHEN HE PAINTED ON HIS HAIRLINE AND BEARD AND PEOPLE WAS DISSING THE SHIT OUT OF HIM, THEN HE BACK TO THE ORIGINAL LOOK…
SHIT LIKE THIS IS WHY I WISH I WASN’T BLACK! THESE BITCHES ARE EMBARASSING AND PATHETIC!
So you think being another race is better???!!! Chile cheese…white folks are just as bad if not worse!!! I refuse to ever let anyone define who I am as a person…
This is messy and I don’t care if he knows all the kids or not this show should not be on the air. One the AIDS rates among black women is extremely high not to mention we have to many single black moms out here already. Yes the Duggars have 20 plus kids but they are also in a COMMITTED relationship big difference. So there is no comparison and as far as sister wives they all live together as one big family and get along which I doubt is what is going on here. Im all for ratchet reality shows but this one is a little to much for me lol the title alone is degarding ijs people need to stop settling for just being a “baby mama”.
YES GAWD!!! You bout made me throw my whole laptop across this room!! WELL SAID MAMA!! You hit the nail on the head with EVERYTHING you said! I hope The Doll saw this
Stop judging ..at least he takes care of them..smh
They also have a show about the man and his multiple wives and children. I cant think of the name. My point is if they find that show interesting to put on television then why not this one?
You can’t compare him to the Duggars. They might have 20 children, but it’s the same mom and dad. Not the same here…aside from the fact that White folks can put some trash like a Honey Boo Boo on TV because they have a juxtaposition. Black folks don’t. We don’t have enough of us on TV doing well and right for us to glorify this sperm donor who never learned how condoms work!
Exactly
This dat *bleep* I dont like!! I guess everyone has their reality show threshold. This one is mine. NOBODY has a perfect family but…c’mon son!
I completely understand what you’re trying to say but i don’t look at it from that point of view. But more like this is just another way to bring down the black community and make us look worst than we are..i see plenty positive black people every day and on the internet but they don’t really try to televise the positive things black people do.
chiiiild please… what the fuuck it is again!!! lord have a mercy
I agree that the ‘ideal’ of the typical family can be somewhat unrealistic in the case that not everyone is going to grow up with both parents who are married in one household. But the thing that is offputting about this show is that it seems to glamorize a man who has several kids with 10 different women that he has never married. No it does not mean that this is not a ‘family’ per se but I don’t think I could participate in a show that glorifies being a ‘baby mama’ especially if I aspire to be more despite any mistakes I may have made in the past. What’s done is done the children are here and they are all blessings but if I were a mother and I had a child with a man who did not committ to me I would learn from it but not parade myself as a baby mama .
for sure i will watch, but this is a MESS MESS MESS!!!
i cant wait your next video hunty & happy new year from an african doll ( my country is just near of the senegal…lmao)!!
I feel the same way. If he was a banker, married with kids by his wife and multiple mistresses then it would be ok. Or if he had 11 kids and married the last one.